My TimeHop app tells me that one year ago today I posted a blog entry called Marriage Misconceptions, so I thought.. wouldn’t it be funny if I did a parenting version? Yeah?
So here goes.
I thought that kids would cost us a ton of money. This just hasn’t been true. We have been blessed by a wonderful ministry that lets us pick used clothes and gear and we donate back to it when we are done, we feed her what we eat, and we save a lot of money using cloth diapers. The only money that I spend on Eden is when I get some random thing in my mind that I have to try, and it rarely works the way I think it will. Oh, I lied. Childcare was significant money, but even that didn’t make the dent in our finances that I thought it would. We had less so we spent less.
Everyone said our lives would change completely. They did, but not in the way I thought they would. I thought the adjustment would be lack of sleep and becoming a full time care giver. But the real difference has been in my priorities. All of a sudden I’m completely obsessed with this kid. It wasn’t like I resented her neediness, I just abruptly and seamlessly became her personal guard dog. My life definitely changed, but I didn’t even really notice it.
We would follow the __________ method. In parenting it seems like everything has a label. If I were to label everything we do, we would be defined as: Breastfeeding, Cloth Diapering, Baby Wearing, Co-Sleeping and then Bed Sharing, Baby Led Weaning, Montessori, Attachment Parenting people. My friend Kelly would shorten that to hippie parents. (Jason would be appalled to be called a hippie.) In actuality, we follow all of these methods to a certain extent, but really we just go through each day and do what works best. It is weird to talk to other parents who hear that I do one of these things and then either get super excited like they found someone from their same cult or they get very distant like I am judging them for their parenting choices.
Those are a few, I don’t have the energy to think up more. Basically, parenting is being given a tiny living child and knowing that you are responsible to keep it alive, make sure it is developing properly, don’t let it become a brat, teach it to be a law abiding & productive citizen, and pray every day that God fills in all of the gaps. Being a parent is a constant reminder that I am inadequate, and a constant guide back to the foot of the cross where God is more than willing to make up for what I lack.